Learning the Tides

By Nova Dudley-Gough

I’ve spent many mornings walking along Panaga Beach, pondering the meaning of life, the pointlessness of existence, and why the tides here are so totally weird. Growing up in the UK — not that I grew up near the coast, but this is what we learned — you had one high tide, one low tide, and that was it. So why is Panaga different? Why are the high tides different heights? Why does it stay high all day sometimes? Why did that sand disappear that one time? After repeatedly asking all this stuff to people who didn’t know either, I was directed toward Rupert Kaile, helicopter pilot, avid kite boarder, and tide expert. We met at Santuari so I could ask him all those questions, and he could helpfully point at the sea while I kept saying “But why?”

Rupert has been in Panaga for eleven years and has been kite surfing properly for at least ten years. Sailing is his true passion — he grew up around Vancouver, Canada, where sailing is a huge part of life — but it’s not as easy to access here in Brunei as Rupert works shift patterns and free weekends are rare. This sport gets him on the water for his fix.

Riding the wind!

Anyone who sails, surfs or kite boards knows that reading the water is essential to being safe and getting good at your sport. It’s about counting the waves, looking for the right swell, and picking the right line to get out to sea or back to shore. Local knowledge is incredibly important — learning where the sandbars are can affect the waves — but so is learning the way the tides work in your particular location.

So, why are the tides so weird here? Rupert was kind enough to explain all this in a way that a person who doesn’t even like getting her face wet in a swimming pool (that’s me) could understand. While we have lunar and solar tides, because water isn’t an even depth all around the globe, and there are things like coastlines and currents and the way that large bodies of water resonate around land masses, these tides vary massively, globally. Due to its location, Brunei has minimal tides. The Philippines and Malaysia essentially block a lot of the water movement that we would get from the lunar and solar tides. It isn’t — as I asked — anything at all to do with being near the equator. So for North America and North West Europe, there is less protection from ocean tides, whereas countries that have a coast with the Mediterranean Sea barely see a change in tide at all.

Chasing Thrills.

While that explains why our tides aren’t extreme, does it also explain why we sometimes have tides that stay high all day? We have to look at other reasons for that. The northeast and southwest monsoon can play a part. (They’re named for the direction that the wind comes from. I really am happy to ask the most basic questions.) The northeast monsoon affects the Brunei tides more as the coastline is exposed to these winds. So we’re not really seeing a tide, but rather a relaxed kind of storm surge. The wind, combined with low air pressure (the sort that would cause a typhoon in the Philippines) ‘lifts’ the sea to keep the tides higher. The southwest monsoon, which comes from inland, doesn’t have the same effect on the tides.

There is no doubt for Rupert, after such a long time in Panaga that climate change is affecting seasons. The wet or dry seasons are less defined and are even changing when they occur during the year — and this is more than the effects of El Niño. The best way to keep an eye on the tides is to use an app, and stick with the same one so you learn the quirks of the water. I use the Tides App, and while there is a tide meter at Kuala Belait, you’re best to look at Tanjong Baram for the tide most relevant to Panaga. Bandar does have a different tidal pattern, reaching their high or low tides an hour or two after us. A good website (used by sailors and people that get on the water, not just next to it) is www.tideforecast.com.

On this map of global tides, you can see the areas that have more dramatic tides (marked in red). Brunei is tucked away and protected by the land masses of the Philippines and Malaysia so our tides are mid-range only.

If you’re interested in learning to kite surf, Rupert learned in Hua Hin, Thailand. The most important thing for that is the wide stretch of beach needed to get the kite ready, and a good wind onto the beach. In Panaga, that usually means January to April. But those pesky tides can wash away — and dump — sand on the beach which means the water might come up higher or lower than it’s supposed to, scuppering any chance of kite boarding.

The Tides app.

There is a small community of kite boarders in Panaga, so make sure you keep an eye out for them the next time you’re walking the beach, feeling all knowledgeable about what those tides are doing.

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Personal Development: Podcasts

 By Ruth Guise

Life as an accompanying partner can be full of amazing experiences and privileges, however one perennial problem is how to pursue meaningful personal development opportunities. Often careers are put into hibernation when setting off on the expat journey, often with no idea of when or if they will be awakened. When time and family commitments — and desire — allow for them to be re-started, there are often obstacles of employment visas, managing family logistics in challenging global locations, travel, language or cultural barriers — the list goes on. 

Whether you want to un-pause a career, or are seeking a fresh challenge, one thing that is certain is that expat life will have equipped you with an impressive range of transferable skills, whether you are aware of it or not.

Laura Sheehan, a Career Strategist, addresses this in her TEDTalk ‘Career Change: What you need to ask yourself now’. As an accompanying partner herself for many years, she realised that there were many ambitious people out there like her, that didn’t know how to find their purpose whilst still maintaining the responsibilities of an accompanying partner. She took that opportunity to change the direction of her career, capitalise on her acumen, and start coaching accompanying partners who were struggling to find ways to maximise their opportunities.  

You can access the FIGT site at www.figt.org

Laura also spoke at the Families in Global Transition (FIGT) conference in 2019 and facilitated workshops where she highlighted how to recognise and give appropriate value to the skills that are accumulated during expat life. Laura was emphatic that the average experienced expat accompanying partner has a CV of skills that are commensurate with that of a CEO, but often we undervalue them just because they haven’t been earned in a traditional employment scenario. What this means is that new opportunities that have no direct connection to previous education or employment, are actually now a really great path to pursue. 

But often finding the path that is right, that compliments your personal circumstances and commitments as an accompanying partner, can be baffling, create inertia and a sense that maybe finding a fulfilling new challenge, that critically can travel with you, isn’t realistic. Everyone’s circumstances are a unique combination of education, previous work experiences, talents, skills and value sets. Often that may mean that people within your expat community are on a completely different journey to you, and this can also mean that the personal development trajectory can feel isolated and lonely — no matter how close your support network may be in other aspects of life. 

Elena Kersey, an expat in Kuala Lumpur and host of The Purpose Effect podcast, identified this aspect of life that was particularly challenging, and she sought to create a space where listeners can hear stories from like-minded people, and be challenging of themselves, when seeking to answer the question that is so frequently posed: ‘If you could do anything, what would you do?’. 

What is common amongst the people Elena interviews is that each has encountered a time of change in their lives, and has responded to that by seeking to  find and fulfil a purpose that is specific and authentic to them. Elena explained that almost all of her interviewees have ended up finding their purpose as the result of having to solve a problem in their life. 

When asking herself the question about what she wanted to do, and faced with the opportunity to potentially ‘do anything’, Elena drew inspiration from the quote of Mark Cuban, the American entrepreneur who advocates for following your effort rather than your passion; the idea being that where you are prepared to spend the most time is inevitably the thing you are most likely to be good and succeed at, rather than just talking in general about the things you like or love. 

Elena said that she kept being drawn to storytelling, both for herself and for others, and therefore creating a platform for people to share their stories ultimately became the project she has pursued for the  last two years, and which is now opening doors for her into other digital applications and freelance work. 

But Elena advises that we need to be kind to ourselves. Careers are not linear and often the axis of health and wellbeing/success and wealth/love, life and family are not at all balanced; accepting that and valuing the parts of life that are going well can help to relieve pressure on the desire to get every aspect of life going successfully, especially when it can be the career aspect that drops off the priority list. From her experience she said it is easy to slip into ‘analysis paralysis’ trying to identify the ‘perfect opportunity’ but in reality it gets you nowhere; discovering a purpose is not the ‘end destination’ but something you find on the journey – sometimes by design but often accidentally.

Check out the Digital Nomad Girls website.

Here, Elena and Laura, (although they don’t know each other) overlap in their advice when approaching finding your purpose, and that is the importance of weaving your values into the way you approach your personal development opportunities whether that is parenting, wellness, sustainability, creative arts — if your core values are at the heart of what you pursue then you are halfway to doing something authentic for you. 

Podcasts like The Purpose Effect can be a fantastic source of information — not to provide a ‘one size fits all’ solution to a personal development conundrum, but to draw on as inspiration and motivation along the journey of how to use your time as an accompanying partner in a way that provides the stimulation specific to your needs. 

Elena explained that it was when she started exploring podcasts and online communities — geographically remote to her — but all interested in the same values and career space, that her project came together and the support of those communities was what gave her the confidence to make it a reality. Elena recommends Digital Nomad Girls as a really supportive community that helped her progress her ideas. 

There are a plethora of podcast resources that seek to specifically support accompanying partners in their journey to maximise opportunities of a global lifestyle. Many take a less philosophical approach than The Purpose Effect, and seek to provide practical support in entrepreneurial matters such as The Expat Career and Lifestyle; Tandem Nomads looks at ways in which expat partners can find autonomy; The Remote Nomad hosted by career coach, Kate, seeks to provide a supportive forum for anyone looking to build a professional life they can take around the world with them. Love your Expat Life also tackles how to achieve personal balance in the face of constant change. For a non-expat specific take on trying new things, and providing a dose of comedy along the way, is How to Fail by Elizabeth Day. 

When some barriers to finding fulfilment seem insurmountable, or you simply want an intimate exploration of your specific journey, then talking to a career or life coach can be money really well spent. Whilst there may be a stigma that those people exist for C-Suite types, there are really wonderful coaches who specialise in working with people looking to use their life experiences with a different approach.

Families in Global Transition is an expat forum and think tank that has devoted the last 25 years to research about, and support of, expats and their communities around the world. They have a wealth of online resources and opportunities to connect with people that may share your ideas and/or have answers to your questions. FIGT also hosts an annual conference that is a vibrant few days of discussion, debate and learning. 

The take-away from all these podcasts and life experiences shared online, by expats and others alike, is that the journey to finding what you love doing can be neither straightforward nor obvious nor linear. However, with digital communities now just a click away, it doesn’t matter whether we are based in Brunei or Port Harcourt or Houston we can find inspiration from people who, like us, live a life that has change and challenges a-plenty; and their fresh perspective might just take us in an unexpected but welcome new direction. 

Do you have any podcasts you like? Share them with us at panaga.pages@gmail.com and we will spread the word!